Osondi Owendi….

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I like to think that I am divergent….Can’t be confined to a box, category or stereotype. Can’t be described as anything but me… My interests vary, I am very much an introvert but can throw that away in a second and be the life of a party once i choose to (I think so 😀 )…So I am an ambivert right? Nah don’t think so….

FullSizeRender 7I am a conscious Black African, I am awake and know what it means to be covered in black skin….I rock my fro, braids, weaves and wigs as i like…because I am comfortable in them. I love the straight hair look and absolutely adore my fro at the same time – So I don’t fit into ‘Team Natural’ or whatever…

FullSizeRender 3I listen to some classical music, love Andrea Boccelli but still bust it to Olamide. Jam to Jess Glynne one second and switch to Yinka Ayefele the next. So I also don’t fit into either/or the ‘Classical Music, Brit Pop, Local Nigerian crew’… Love a good night in with a book and a cuppa/Ice-cream or Soup….but also really do fancy putting my dancing shoes on grooving the night away… I love musicals, love classic Hollywood Movies, the black and white ones too, adore Audrey Hepburn and Lauryn Hill all at the same time.FullSizeRender 4Believe I can blend into any crowd I find myself in and have a good time because I have come to understand that we are all different. We can’t all be the same.  My soul is on adventure, I am not the same woman I was 5 years ago and will be a different woman in the next 5 years…My soul is free. I am free to wander and try new things….Free to salsa this friday and tap dance the next in my afro and that is completely OK!.. I listen to whatever music I want, dress however way I please in so far as it is not offensive.FullSizeRender 5I remember attending a Chimamanda Adichie book reading once in Lagos, a member of the audience made up of ‘Team Naturals’ ‘Team smart/High IQ’ ‘Team Critical Thinkers’ ‘Team No Make up Girls’ ‘Team I do not conform to Society’ asked her a question around her natural hair and I remember her saying she felt ‘confident’ wearing her natural hair and she felt black women who do not wear their hair in its natural state are not confident enough. The team naturals in the crowd all clapped, swelling up with pride..Osondi owendi…I sat there with my natural hair plaits below my weave and lost some admiration for the lady. She should know… ‘Osondi Owendi’…It is Igbo and means in english ‘What some people appreciate some people despise‘ ..WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT. ‘My confidence cannot be defined by another person
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Is the most important thing not for us all to be comfortable in our ‘skin’ whatsoever that ‘skin’ may be? Is being free to choose what we want and be at peace with ourselves not the most important? Funny how a people who have decided to ‘not conform to certain ‘norms’ in society, who have ‘found their freedom’ form a non-conformist group and are then quick to ‘condemn’ any one who is not conforming to their nonconformism…?

To these people in whatever team you are, congratulations firstly on finding yourself….but please as you go on remember…Osondi Owendi….Face your front, do you and let others do themselves!

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  • Reply Oluwatoyin 10/08/2017 at 7:31 pm

    Wow! I hear this phrase ‘Osondi Owendi’ a lot but I have never tried to find what it means. Thanks for the enlightenment @calebs.girl. This piece is lovely.

  • Reply Oluwatoyin 10/08/2017 at 7:28 pm

    Wow! I hear this phrase ‘Osondi Owendi’ often but I have never tried to find what it means. Thanks for the enlightenment. This piece is lovely too.

  • Reply sefua 18/04/2016 at 2:58 pm

    Abi! Welldone……I love reading your blog, it paves way for self discovery and all……God Bless The Creativity in you

    • Reply Calebs Girl 18/04/2016 at 4:34 pm

      Glad it has had a positive effect on you Sefua!

  • Reply Ro 16/04/2016 at 12:42 am

    I love love love this sis, the website and posts are amazing, well done soon proud of you

    • Reply Calebs Girl 16/04/2016 at 10:42 pm

      All work in progress…Thank you sister girl!

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